Sunday, October 11, 2009
Old friends are meant to be treasured
Met up with my long long long long time friend, Miss Karen Khoo (i hope she will soon be 'Mrs' in few years' time)! This post is about her....yup that's her. Cute right? =) To me, she's always cute!! I've calculated...we've been friends for 6 years, or close to 7 years. (Gosh...we're aging fast)
Our favourite place is Coffee Bean at SingPost. Oh well, 'cause it's the central place in our neighbourhood. I miss those times i went to her house, and we just chat and chat and chat. We use to cook maggie mee together. Sad to say, Karen always leave me to wash the dishes. (haha...joking la, she did helped...sometimes) Sometimes we eat prata and lim kopi just under her block. We get scared occasionally by cats running in between tables.
We had crazy experiences together. Still remember we almost got hit by a quarrelling couple while we were walking home one day. SCARES!! We were both so scared-stiff!! *shudders* We got stopped by a couple, in the midst of their heated argument. The guy wanted to hit the girl, so she took refuge behind Karen. (i can still remember the look on her face!) We don't dare to move. To cut the long story short, we manage to run, but we called the police. Exciting ya??
Seriously, i can't exactly remember how we got to know each other. WAHAHA! (Karen please don't kill me for this) I got to know her through other friends. All i know is, Karen knows me inside-out. If i didn't remember wrongly, i sent her SMSes to encourage her one day, when she was really down. From then on, some how she just decided i am a good friend. I also concluded that she appreciated my care and concern, so that's how our friendship deepens.
However, we are by nature VERY different personalities.
Karen is rather quiet when she initially know a person...(initially only)
I am usually pro-active to strive conversation with others. (fine, i am talkative...whatever!)
Karen is a good listener (she really is)...
I struggle to listen (or struggle to keep silent!)
Karen really LOVES watching TV, and Korean drama series....('cause of 'cute' guys)
I'd rather spend my time doing something else...(like reading, listen music, whatever)
Karen HATES the sun!!!! Give her half a chance, she'll try to shoot it down!!
But i am quite an outdoor person!
Karen have no interest or what so ever with nature and plants...
But i am a fan of nature. =)
Karen is non-confrontational and peace-loving....
But i am unfortunately not!!!! I am usually the one to confront others for their mistakes!
(OPPS!!)
Well...the list goes on. But out of the so many other things we have in common, one thing that gelled us together after so many years, is that we both treasure this friendship. (Karen i know you do...pardon me for being so thick-skinned)
I have to say, it is not easy for the both of us, as we are very different people. We went through so much (oh we can write a story book about it) together, to get our differences ironed out. I remembered those times we had huge fights (no punching though), complicated arguments. Many times, because of our differences in views and ways of handling things, we jeopardized our friendship. We almost fell out a few times (yes, it was that serious).
But the wonderful thing about Karen, (and probably myself too..haha) is that ability to forgive and accept each other's weaknesses. It took us many years to realized, it is not our differences that matters, it is how we compliment each other's differences that matters most. In the early part of our friendship (i believe in any friendship and relationship is the same), we focused so much on our differences. But as we grow in this friendship, we accepted each other's weaknesses and learn to compliment each other, instead of getting upset with each other. We can get really mad at each other, but at the end of the day, we know it is not worth winning an argument, if we lose each other.
After going through so much together, our friendship grows to another stage now. We are at the 'enjoyment' stage. =) HAHA. A stage in the friendship, where we enjoy the fruits of all that we have sown into our Garden of Friendship. =)
*OLD FRIENDS ARE MEANT TO BE TREASURED*
Someone once said, "Friendship is like a garden. If we don't sow seeds into the garden, then there will be no fruits in years to come." Friendship is really like a garden. You need to sow, your time, energy, sweat, tears, in order to make it grow. The fastest way to destroy a friendship is to leave it alone. When you leave the garden alone, weeds will soon take over the empty spaces in the plots of land.
I think those empty spaces in our friendship garden needs to be filled by happy memories, and those though times we endured together. A friendship that can't stand the tests will not last. =)
Only friendships that are tested are strong; only friends that stick with you through those hard times are worth keeping.
Do you have close friends to share your life with? I believe friendship is a need. Everyone needs friends. So what price are you willing to pay, to hold on to a friend? =) If you don't have, maybe it's time to learn to sow seeds of love and care into someone around you.
Karen....thanks for all these years of friendship. You will always have a special place in my heart.
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